To The One I Love ... But Not Really

 
Oh, can't you see
You belong to me
How my poor heart aches with every step you take

 The Police - Every Breath You Take

I am notorious for having to know the lyrics of a song. Why was it written? What is the symbolism? I love the thoughts and research that some artists put into a song. I admit I have ruined a song for some people and have to practice restraint most of the time. I apologize in advance if I am about to do it again. To me, a misplaced song in a show or movie is as bad as a character that is there for no reason. Do your research people -- or come and see me first. Here are some of the most notoriously mis-understood love songs.

Dave Matthews - Crash Into Me

Sexy love song this is not. Creepy stalker voyeur reminiscent of The Police classic Every Breath You Take it is. It seems like a love song. It delivers like a love song. I guess it is a love song--sort of??

Oh I watch you there

through the window

And I stare at you

You wear nothing but you

wear it so well

Creep. Ok, sadly, some might be okay with Dave Matthews staring at them through the window without knowing ... I would prefer to know then, I guess, all of  sudden that creep factor kind of subsides - anyway...

Matthews has jokingly stated this song was written as an alternative to getting arrested. Hey, he said it, not me. We still love you anyway, Dave.

Bruce Springsteen - Born In The USA

Very good example of why you should understand what the song is about before you use it for, I don't know,  for something like your presidential campaign. 

Ronald Reagan said of Born in the USA and Bruce Springsteen: 

America's future rests in a thousand dreams inside your hearts; it rests in the message of hope in songs so many young Americans admire: New Jersey's own Bruce Springsteen. And helping you make those dreams come true is what this job of mine is all about.

Sure Ronnie, messages of hope, uh huh, being a  down on your luck Vietnam Veteran blue collar worker, losing your faith and spirit in the country you were once so proud of, this song is...completely and utterly not a song of hope but of despair. This is a classic case of judging a book by its cover.

R.E.M. - The One I Love

Again, deceitful. Stipe grabs you with the seeming dedication at the beginning ... This one goes out to the one I love. But wait - listen. After he has you in the nice hug, his arms tighten with the next line ... this one goes out to the one I've left behind.  WTF? Left behind? And when you think the grip is so tight, he takes you and throws you to the ground A simple prop to occupy my time. A song about never ending love? Hardly. A song written from the point of view of someone who has had their heart ripped out and stomped on several times, possibly.

U2 - Love is Blindness

When it comes to songs, Bono can be a sneaky bugger.  99% of the songs he writes with  Edge are blanketed in religious symbolism and politics. Songs like Pride, Please, and Bullet the Blue Sky are seeped in politics and religion. Love is Blindness is no exception to this rule. You are correct in assuming that Bono is singing about love. He is singing about love of country and love of identity. He just happens to be singing it from the point of view of a car bomber:

In a parked car in a crowded street 

You see your love made complete

Love is clockworks

And cold steel

Fingers too numb to feel

Squeeze the handle

Blow out the candle

Blindness

A little death without mourning

No call and no warning

Baby a dangerous idea, that almost makes sense

If there was deleted scene in Blown Away that could be created today - Tommy Lee Jones would be dancing around and singing this song. 

Faith No More - Underwater Love

Mike Patton totally and completely freaked me out with this song. Yeah, I sing along to it and people look at you in a very odd way when you do. It's upbeat, especially when he sings it live. Like he's riding on a carousel, not drowning his love.

Bubbling up to the surface

Are you getting a breath of fresh air?

Forever longing to make you mine

But I can't escape your stare...

Liquid seeps into your lungs

But your eyes look so serene

A far cry from Epic (okay there was the fish) or Falling to Pieces, Mike takes drowning his love to another love - forever longing to make you mine.

Radiohead - Creep

This is just a sad love song. You can hear the quiet sadness in the beginning that builds and builds from the anger and frustrtaion of loving someone and feeling that they are too good for you.

I'm a creep.

I'm a weirdo.

What the hell am I doing here?

You listen to it again and realize what's going on:

I want you to notice

When I'm not around

I wish I was special

You're so fucking special

Ok, first I was really being hard on myself. Then it's like - you know what. Screw you. You're so special but I'm still feeling hard on myself. I still love you but I'm feeling like a freak.

I don't belong here

Harsh. Who hasn't been there. Yup, we all have. Maybe not to the Thom Yorke sense, but we've all been there. (This will blow your mind: The Pretenders covering Creep: 

Motley Crue - You're All I Need 

Bassist Nikki Sixx was so ahead of the Law and Order SVU curve when he wrote this song. Supposedly "ripped from the headlines", the song seems so romantic if you're only catching the chorus You're all I need, make you only mine. Most people missed the first verse at this point:

The blade of my knife
Faced away from your heart
Those last few nights
It turned and sliced you apart
This love that I tell
Now feels lonely as hell
From this padded prison cell

Oh, prison cell, you say. This guy, similar to Mike Patton, was not going to lose his girl - ever.  This video was banned from MTV.

 And finally, one of the most misunderstood songs (my opinion) is Leonard Cohen's Hallelujah. Used often to mourn, look more closely, it is a very sensual love song. (See my own post, A Misguided Hallelujah). Many religious references are in the song, but they are of references to the Bibles infamous lovers. Kind David, Samson, Delilah, and Bathsheba. 

To quote Jeff Buckley himself: Whoever listens carefully to 'Hallelujah' will discover that it is a song about sex, about love, about life on earth...It's an ode to life and love. Thoughts? He truly sang the words with longing, passion, want of physical closeness.

There was a time when you let me know

What's really going on below

But now you never show it to me, do you?

And remember when I moved in you

The holy dove was moving too

And every breath we drew was Hallelujah

Yes, I have stayed away from songs like She Bop, Turning Japanese and Dancing With Myself - even though self love does count as love.And if I ruined ANY of those three songs for you, I make no apologies.

To me, songs are like poetry. The artist (usually) is trying to get a message or story or feeling across to the listener. Next time, listen, try and figure out what it is they are trying to say or what story they are trying to tell...especially before you dedicate it to someone you love.

A Fabulous Disaster

John Simon Ritchie AKA Sid Vicious, defined the rock and roll tragedy of live fast and die young. The "bass" player from the Sex Pistols reached cult status due to his outrageous behavior, tragic relationship with Nancy Spungeon, and young death at the age of 21. Why the "" around bass? According to Motörhead's Lemmy in an interview with Room13:  

R13: Is it true you tried to teach Sid Vicious how to play the bass?
L: Yeah. It was all uphill. And he still couldn't play bass when he died, I mean, fucking hell. Well, and everybody knows that, just listen to the Sex Pistols record that he was on, you know, you can tell it's Steve standing in for him. In fact I'm not sure if Sid was ever on the record, I think it was Steve who played bass.

He met John Lydon, AKA Johnny Rotten, in 1973 and eventually would came up with the name Sid Vicious. For those music trivia buffs out there, Sid was the name of Ritchie's per hamster. Upon being bit by the hamster, Lydon is rumored to have said "this hamster Sid is vicious." Voila !



Chelsea Hotel, 2012, pmc

Erratic behavior from sweet to raging violent. But Sid showed in the mockumentary The Great Rock and Roll Swindle that he did have talent. The boy could really sing. It was, however, his on and off stage antics that he would be more known for. Drugs, alcohol, partying, filth: that was Sid in a nutshell.



It would be, sadly, his relationship with Nancy Spungeon, that would make him infamous. On October 12, 1978, Sid would find Nancy dead, stabbed in their room at the Chelsea Hotel. Their tumultuous relationship filled with fights, abuse and drugs. Nancy had left her Pennsylvania home for London and met Sid. It would be a love made in hell for both of them.

Sid would eventually  be charged with second degree murder and taken to Riker's Island, pleading his innocence the entire time. Was it a drug induced fight? Was it a drug dealer looking for money? No one alive will ever know what really happened. February 1, 1979, Sid was released after posting bail. Sid, clean after going through a detox program, attended a party in his honor. Sid would though inject heroin again that night, against the wishes of his new girlfriend. It would then be his own mother responsible for the death of her son as she gave her son the final injection that would kill him early in the morning on February 2, 1979.

In a 1977 interview with the Daily Mail, Sid told the interviewer  I'll probably die by the time I reach 25. But I'll have lived the way I wanted to.  In a reported suicide note found in his leater jacket, Sid's only wish was to be buried by Nancy. Because she was Jewish, Sid's ashes were instead scattered over her grave.

It is indeed a very tragic tale, but mythically kept alive as if it was some sort of Punk Romeo and Juliet. Infamous stardom, fame, drugs, love, death and debauchery: the life of John Simon Ritchie. 

Sid and Nancy the film, starring Gary Oldman (and you can see Courtney Love in a few scenes)

Sid going to see an idol in concert - David Bowie 1973